Not understanding why I didn't get into a sorority. I could really see myself in my top choice and am crushed that they dropped me. It's been over a month and it still hurts me.
Rushing is tough but props to you for putting yourself out there. Even though you didn’t get the result you wanted, remember how you committed yourself to the process, and be proud of that. If this is something you really want, you can always try again next year. If you’re totally turned off by the process, there are also professional sororities with an academic focus that are just as involved. Don’t fall into the easy trap of stalking sorority Instagrams and others’ posts during their events, it’s just gonna give you FOMO. Everything happens for a reason and perhaps your hard work is needed elsewhere in the world!
How can I tell my roommate that I see him as more than just a roommate? I'm all bent out of shape about it because we're living together for next year too. Also he likes muscular guys and I'm built like a twig.
First off, don’t doubt yourself lean king. But this is a tough situation; living with someone undoubtedly opens the door for attraction when you spend a lot of time together. If you’re ready and sure to have that conversation, do it in a comfortable space when neither of you are stressed about school or life. Acknowledge your guys’ relationship as roommates/friends and then use “I” statements on how your feelings have developed. Saying “you make me feel…” can come off as blaming. Also be prepared for a slew of reactions: mutual or unshared feelings, or they need more time to process. It’s also a possibility that this can create awkwardness for next year. Worst case scenario you guys end up switching out as roommates if the tension becomes too much for both or either one of you.
My landlord said that he would give us free pizza for doing him a favor last semester. How can we bring it up to him without it being awkward and seeming desperate?
This is so funny. Also, you’re college students, let’s be honest, we’re all desperate for free food. So, no shame there. Make a joke out of it, text them or bring it up next time they visit, saying “so remember how you said you would treat us to pizza if we did a favor?” If you’re feeling bold and have a good relationship with them, add a smiley face or the eyes emoji.
Getting out there again. I was in a terrible relationship and I haven't been able to trust people since. I don't go out EVER and I'm in no clubs. I have like four close friends who also don't go out. I just miss being in love.
The only thing I would caution against is you saying you “miss being in love.” As you said, you were in a “terrible relationship,” so the love you miss may not be an accurate representation of what you really want and need. Let a connection come to you naturally; forcing a relationship doesn’t always lead to happily-ever-afters. This doesn’t mean stay inside. Get yourself and your friends to do something different and go out on the weekend. If you're scared of a Rho Thursday, start small at a local bar. Also, it’s never too late to join a club. They all vary in terms of commitment, so you can definitely find something that suits you.
