“Not interrupting ppl (picked up a bad habit)”
First step (which you completed!) is recognizing your bad habit. Now make sure you’re recognizing it in the moment, apologize after interrupting someone, practice actively listening to what someone is saying and wait for them to pause before you add your input. Self-discipline is hard, but rewarding. If you do feel the need to interrupt, make sure it’s with a clarifying question.
“I have a crush on a girl but I think she friend-zoned me, should I tell her I like her? She's beautiful and we have so much in common but I could be happy as friends.”
If you haven’t already, make sure she swings on the same team before you make a move. On the other hand, props to you for wanting to express your feelings — others aren’t as brave. There are numerous ways to tell someone you like them, but if you’re nervous, start with a small gesture, like getting them their favorite candy or drink. If you’re feeling bold, tell them how you feel, just be prepared for the possibility of rejection. Also ask yourself: do you see this going somewhere or is this initial attraction?
“Understanding exercise science”
Find some YouTube videos to explain class concepts. You just need to find explanations that work for you. When you’re taking notes, try and put it into your own words. This works for better understanding, so it sticks in your mind more. Also, don’t be afraid to use your professor’s office hours, or start a study group so you don’t have to suffer alone.
“Self-confidence”
Dance naked in the mirror. I am completely serious, and you’ll probably feel silly at first, but soon it’s gonna become a staple in your shower routine. Find a self-care routine and make it a morning or night ritual. Step out of the box with your style. Start small by wearing colors you normally don’t wear. Don’t fall into the trap of comparison. Easier said than done, I know. Everyone is unique for a purpose, so embrace whatever you’ve been holding back. Avoid negative self-talk, and if you catch yourself doing it, then replace it with positive affirmations.
“Moving on from first love”
First loves are hard and it’s important to let yourself feel these emotions so they don’t weigh you down forever. Limit contact with your ex — no shame in muting their social media so you can’t see them. Love yourself with self-care, and don’t stop doing activities you love or even try some new ones. Also, don’t forget to spend time with your loved ones. Let’s adopt healthy and not dangerous habits through this coping process.
“Doing basic hygiene when in the hole(depressed)”
Start small, and be realistic according to your energy levels. Can’t take a full shower? Wash your face, even a simple cold splash counts. Adopt a simple routine, not those 30-step drills you see on social media — ain’t nobody got time for that! Journal when you can do self-care, so you can look back on your progress. Don’t forget to celebrate and give yourself credit for what you accomplish.
“How to use the gym(femme person)”
It may be intimidating to see people who seem like experts in the gym, but trust me, everyone is worried about their own goals. Wear clothes that you’re comfortable and confident in, get your favorite water bottle and your hype playlist. Also, don’t overexert yourself. Start with perfecting exercises by using your body weight, and then slowly implement weights if that’s your goal. There are plenty of social media influencers or YouTubers that have beginner workouts to help you learn how to do an exercise.
“Studying without the tutor center(bad experience before)”
Start a class GroupMe to discuss everyone’s study habits. Ask around campus to see if anyone took the class before, and what their test preparation looked like. If you struggle with self-discipline, set reminders on your phone to do work or leave sticky notes around the room. You can totally get on track without the tutoring center. Don’t be afraid to ask your professor for advice on your study plan also. They’re usually helpful!
